Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda

So many times we are presented with opportunities that we do not see or that we do not acknowledge. Sometimes that opportunity does not come packaged the way that we want it to. Sometimes we are busy looking at something else and completely miss the opportunity altogether. Then we are left with the "shoulda, coulda, … Continue reading Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda

Dating And Social Media

I’m new to the dating game. Not really, but kind of sorta. Let’s start from the beginning. I’ve only been dating post divorce a short time. I was married for about 11 years and dated the ex-husband for another four or so before that. So that takes us back circa 1998. We weren’t using cell … Continue reading Dating And Social Media

Find Your Tribe

They always say "Birds of a Feather"...you know the rest. And it's partially true. But what I have realized is that it's the things that are different about you that bring the synergy. Some people like to have a yes man around them and that's fine. Problem is, you never learn and you never grow. … Continue reading Find Your Tribe

Happy Birthday to CLS!

  Last year when I started the blog, I was preparing to go through a divorce. I had just truly become a single mother and was starting to acknowledge and accept that the life I thought I had was not real. After agonizing and sitting on all of it all alone, I called a few … Continue reading Happy Birthday to CLS!

Stop Letting Beyonce Convince You To Live Flaws & All

I’m sarcastic and I have a dry sense of humor. When you know me, you know that I always try to inject some type of humor into a situation because, well, life can be a bit stressful if you let it. I know that a lot of people are not built to deal with my … Continue reading Stop Letting Beyonce Convince You To Live Flaws & All

Don’t Let Your Relationships Lauryn Hill You

Lauryn Hill came out with one solid album damn near twenty years ago. And yet, in 2017 she still has promoters booking her for events. It makes me wonder. Why? Of course, her name is a draw, and for those of us that loved every word on The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill, I guess there … Continue reading Don’t Let Your Relationships Lauryn Hill You

Living On Purpose

A question that I get asked repeatedly is "How did you figure out your purpose?" I don't really know the real answer to that. I've always just kind of done what feels good to me. To others, it looked like I am the kind of person that goes with the flow. I've been called a … Continue reading Living On Purpose

Peeling Away the Layers, One Brick at a Time 

At some point in our lives we are faced with an important decision. To either face the pain that we have stuffed and hid behind for years or just face it.  When I use the word "we", I am among the countless numbers of individuals that have faced some form of emotional, physical, or spiritual, … Continue reading Peeling Away the Layers, One Brick at a Time 

Love Don’t Love You

February. It's still the beginning of the year. We just finished setting resolutions. Now we are supposed to spend a lot of money to tell someone I love you. The concept of love is already abstract enough. No one person loves the same. There are countless books written on the art of love, how to … Continue reading Love Don’t Love You

11 Years Of Silence- Why Did I Not Exist In My Marriage?

"No matter where you go, you are what you are player, And you can try to change but that's just the top layer Man, you was who you was before you got here....." ~Public Service Announcement, Jay-z   I did a project on human nature back in college. We had to ask a parent about … Continue reading 11 Years Of Silence- Why Did I Not Exist In My Marriage?