"No matter where you go, you are what you are player, And you can try to change but that's just the top layer Man, you was who you was before you got here....." ~Public Service Announcement, Jay-z I did a project on human nature back in college. We had to ask a parent about... Continue Reading →
I Don’t Want Your Grandmother’s Ring
I saw a meme in a Facebook group that asked what you would do if after five years of marriage, you discovered that your wedding ring used to belong to your husband's ex-wife. My answer was not exactly the most cooperative. For me, it would not be a means to ending the relationship, but I... Continue Reading →
25 powerful photos of Chicago’s Women’s March (2017)
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Forgiving Yourself, Moving On, And Letting Go
I'm a music lover. I love all different genres. It never really mattered to me whether it was country, rock, or R&B. As long as the message was clear and the beat moved me. Let me tell you about creatives. We flock to one another. There is a synergy there that is encouraging and enlightening.... Continue Reading →
Not Another Christmas Turkey
I sat there on Thanksgiving, completely frustrated and slightly irritated. I didn't want turkey. I had been over turkey on the holidays since around 1995 when my mom found this mutant turkey that fed an army and still sat sliced and frozen in the freezer through May the next year. I didn't want to see... Continue Reading →
In 2017, I’m looking forward to embracing CHANGE!
Living in 2016 taught me how to release the right amount energy to achieve goals. After midnight on December 31, 2015, I knew the year would be something to remember. Why? Because I was turning 50 in six months. My plans were to live life to the fullest and embrace whatever challenges in my path.... Continue Reading →
Friendship Isn’t Easy
"The last thing you need is judgment when you are really trying to figure something out. We all need someone to talk to, to bounce ideas off of and get perspective." Twenty years late, I found Sex And The City and fell in love. I really don't know what I was doing when it was... Continue Reading →
The Reason For The Season
"That's not what the holiday season is about for me. I would much rather my kids learn that they should be blessed to be a blessing to others." The winter holidays can be a trying time for some. Besides the fact that the days are shorter, the weather a little colder, from Thanksgiving through the... Continue Reading →
Blog Rewind: Being Black And Gay In America- Part I
A couple of years ago I attended a literary event in Ashville, North Carolina. There was a gentleman there by the name of J’son (Lee) Green. I sat in a seminar he facilitated and had a chance to meet and speak with him afterwards. I found him to be both charming and comical and I... Continue Reading →
Can a Man Thrive Without a Woman?
I heard a really interesting perspective a few weeks ago that had me throwing my hands up in praise because it is SO true. And it goes a little something like this.. A man can survive without a woman. He cannot thrive without a woman. So, I asked CLS writers to chime in and give... Continue Reading →


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