Nearly 38 years ago, I was apparently the apple of my fathers eye. I have heard stories of how he would spoil me rotten, give me whatever I wanted. He had high hopes for me and was proud of his baby girl. Fast forward a few years – my parents are no longer together. Mom moves in her own direction. Dad does the same. Today, my mom will admit that she didn’t go about the divorce in the most rationale way, but for a young twenty something, I gather she did the best she could with what she had. Consequently, two little girls were left to grow up without their fathers presence and attention.
Growing up, and even today, feelings of sadness over not having my dad around would creep up, especially on days like this. I look around at all the the “lucky girls” that have their fathers love and attention and wished that could be me. But thankfully, I was surrounded by the love and support of amazing aunts, uncles, great aunts, and great uncles. Year after year, they poured into my sister and I and it is for that reason that I am the woman I am today.
So, it turns out that I am one of the lucky girls, I just ended up this way a little differently than those of you that had your dads presence and attention. Today, I know that despite his choices, I am worthy of unconditional love. I accept that my life would not be what it is without the experiences I have endured thus far. I am stronger for it. That strength now allows me the opportunity to share and inspire others to keep going despite the adversity they have experienced.
So, to all the lucky girls out there – keep striving, keep growing, keep loving. You deserve all your hearts desire. You are 100% worth it!
Please share this message with all the lucky girls you know.
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