I Found What My Soul Needed, He Just Came Too Late

Exploring relationships and love after divorce had been very interesting. I have had the privilege of experiencing a beautiful connection with a man that seems to be all my soul has been longing for.  This experience has taught me so much about myself and about the beauty of life and love. Although I have become … Continue reading I Found What My Soul Needed, He Just Came Too Late

Love Don’t Love You

February. It's still the beginning of the year. We just finished setting resolutions. Now we are supposed to spend a lot of money to tell someone I love you. The concept of love is already abstract enough. No one person loves the same. There are countless books written on the art of love, how to … Continue reading Love Don’t Love You

11 Years Of Silence- Why Did I Not Exist In My Marriage?

"No matter where you go, you are what you are player, And you can try to change but that's just the top layer Man, you was who you was before you got here....." ~Public Service Announcement, Jay-z   I did a project on human nature back in college. We had to ask a parent about … Continue reading 11 Years Of Silence- Why Did I Not Exist In My Marriage?

I Don’t Want Your Grandmother’s Ring

I saw a meme in a Facebook group that asked what you would do if after five years of marriage, you discovered that your wedding ring used to belong to your husband's ex-wife. My answer was not exactly the most cooperative. For me, it would not be a means to ending the relationship, but I … Continue reading I Don’t Want Your Grandmother’s Ring

He’s Mine, I’ll Love Him The Way I Want

I remember watching a few people who I know as they weathered long distance relationships. When I was married, I remember thinking 'I could never do something like that.' Now being divorced, long distance would be totally alright. People have these picture perfect views of what a relationship should be. Faithful, spending all of your … Continue reading He’s Mine, I’ll Love Him The Way I Want

Friendship Isn’t Easy

"The last thing you need is judgment when you are really trying to figure something out. We all need someone to talk to, to bounce ideas off of and get perspective." Twenty years late, I found Sex And The City and fell in love. I really don't know what I was doing when it was … Continue reading Friendship Isn’t Easy

Blog Rewind: Being Black And Gay In America- Part I

A couple of years ago I attended a literary event in Ashville, North Carolina. There was a gentleman there by the name of J’son (Lee) Green. I sat in a seminar he facilitated and had a chance to meet and speak with him afterwards. I found him to be both charming and comical and I … Continue reading Blog Rewind: Being Black And Gay In America- Part I

Blog Rewind: Believe Him When He Tells You

Don't get me wrong, he may have genuine feelings for you. The chemistry you feel is real. But he does not have the ability to give you what you need consistently and long term. He doesn't want you.  He calls you consistently for a week, texts you, even Face Times you. Then it goes radio … Continue reading Blog Rewind: Believe Him When He Tells You

What I Learned About Dating From My 17 Year Old Self

"I am the type that loves love and relationships. I hate the dating part though. It’s this awkward space full of getting to know someone and that does not always happen easily. I like things that happen organically and naturally. So now at 37, I find it both irritating and aggravating to have to navigate … Continue reading What I Learned About Dating From My 17 Year Old Self

What Does It Mean To Be a Ride or Die Chic?

"I definitely agree that some women give up too much of themselves and risk too much of their lives for the wrong dude." Several weeks ago, a friend and I start chatting about some random subject that led to me saying that I have the potential of being a ride or die chic.  He did … Continue reading What Does It Mean To Be a Ride or Die Chic?