The Strong Woman’s Guide to Getting Out of Your Own Way

I recently had a friend tell me recently that I need to get out of my own way.  At first, I wanted to get a little salty with the feedback I was hearing.  But then realized that it is so freakin true!  Ha!  Okay, I admit it. I have a tendency to get in my own way when it comes to a lot of things.

When my back is up against the wall, I want to fight, kick and scream.  When things are going the way I think they should go, I will try to restore things back to the way it “should” be.

That tends to lead to more stress, drama and harm.  Then comes the apologies.  Back in the day, I didn’t apologize for shit though.  So, I have definitely come a long way 😉

Yet, despite this progress, there is definitely more growth in order.  I like to grow at turtle pace.  No cold turkey, hard core, up at 5 AM type of growth.  Slow and steady.

So, what do my advisors tell me that I need to do?  Yes, I have advisors 🙂

• Receive help when offered.  Don’t try to do everything yourself.  If you have someone in your corner willing to take the load off of you, receive that.  Receive it with gratitude.  You deserve it.  You work damn hard and are there for everyone else.  Let someone do the same for you.
• Stop the rationalization trap.  Get over the “whys” and “hows” of situations that have happened.  It’s over.  Time to pick up the pieces from where you are and move forward.  Focus on the goal and take steps in that direction.
• It’s okay to feel like you can’t handle things right now but that doesn’t take away your strength.  You were built for the struggles you have faced and will face.  You got this!  Cry your heart out when you need to but know that it is temporary and will pass.
• Let ALL the shit that is weighing you down go.  All of it.  Release that shit in whatever way you need to so that you can continue to be great.  At the end of the day, you have work to do sweetie.  The world needs you.  Accept that you are destined to have what you desire and shine bright.  Accept that challenges will come.  They will also go.  That is the beauty of life.

So, to all my fellow Strong Women out there, I hope this advice helps you as it helps me. Continue to remain grateful for the experiences that have shaped you and continue to do amazing work in the world.  Namaste

~Hilda