February. It's still the beginning of the year. We just finished setting resolutions. Now we are supposed to spend a lot of money to tell someone I love you. The concept of love is already abstract enough. No one person loves the same. There are countless books written on the art of love, how to... Continue Reading →
I Don’t Want Your Grandmother’s Ring
I saw a meme in a Facebook group that asked what you would do if after five years of marriage, you discovered that your wedding ring used to belong to your husband's ex-wife. My answer was not exactly the most cooperative. For me, it would not be a means to ending the relationship, but I... Continue Reading →
25 powerful photos of Chicago’s Women’s March (2017)
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He’s Mine, I’ll Love Him The Way I Want
I remember watching a few people who I know as they weathered long distance relationships. When I was married, I remember thinking 'I could never do something like that.' Now being divorced, long distance would be totally alright. People have these picture perfect views of what a relationship should be. Faithful, spending all of your... Continue Reading →
Forgiving Yourself, Moving On, And Letting Go
I'm a music lover. I love all different genres. It never really mattered to me whether it was country, rock, or R&B. As long as the message was clear and the beat moved me. Let me tell you about creatives. We flock to one another. There is a synergy there that is encouraging and enlightening.... Continue Reading →
Not Another Christmas Turkey
I sat there on Thanksgiving, completely frustrated and slightly irritated. I didn't want turkey. I had been over turkey on the holidays since around 1995 when my mom found this mutant turkey that fed an army and still sat sliced and frozen in the freezer through May the next year. I didn't want to see... Continue Reading →
2017 New Year’s Resolution…And Why I Won’t Be Making One
"If not, you are walking through life with your fists balled up expecting people to place something in your hands. Impossible." I hate New Year's resolutions. First of all, I have a horrible memory. By the end of the year, I would never remember what I resolved to do. So I just don't make them.... Continue Reading →
In 2017, I’m looking forward to embracing CHANGE!
Living in 2016 taught me how to release the right amount energy to achieve goals. After midnight on December 31, 2015, I knew the year would be something to remember. Why? Because I was turning 50 in six months. My plans were to live life to the fullest and embrace whatever challenges in my path.... Continue Reading →
Friendship Isn’t Easy
"The last thing you need is judgment when you are really trying to figure something out. We all need someone to talk to, to bounce ideas off of and get perspective." Twenty years late, I found Sex And The City and fell in love. I really don't know what I was doing when it was... Continue Reading →
Blog Rewind: Being Black And Gay In America- Part I
A couple of years ago I attended a literary event in Ashville, North Carolina. There was a gentleman there by the name of J’son (Lee) Green. I sat in a seminar he facilitated and had a chance to meet and speak with him afterwards. I found him to be both charming and comical and I... Continue Reading →
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